Relationships Without Boundaries

Are unclear about your preferences.
Do not notice your own unhappiness since pleasing is your main concern.
Alter your behavior, plans, or opinions to fit the current moods or circumstances of another (i.e., you live reactively).
Do more and more for less and less.
Take as truth the most recent opinion you have heard.
Are satisfied if you are coping and surviving.
Make exceptions for a person for things you would not tolerate in others.
Are manipulated by flattery so that you lose objectivity.
Try to create intimacy with a narcissist.
See the other person as causing your happiness or excitement.
Feel hurt and victimized but not angry with the other person.
Act out of compliance and compromise.
Do favors that you inwardly resist—you cannot say “no.”
Often feel afraid and confused.
Frequently become involved in dramas that are beyond your control or don’t involve you personally.
Commit yourself for as long as the other person needs you to be committed.
You don’t have a bottom line.